Non-Protective: With ‘Friends’ Like That, Who Needs Enemies?

Protective at all costs of self, relationship, and loved one(s). Advocate. Fox-hole partner. Ally in life. Shared reality. On the same page. Speaking the same language. Standing strong with integrity. Principled. Fully-integrated self. Transparent. Honest. Forthright. Pro clarity.

All of these adjectives describe the type of foundational traits I consider to be a requirement for me to invest my time, energy, vulnerability and self into someone.

How many people are willing to have you around, do activities with you, chit chat with you, use you as a captive audience for their performances and to hear their own voices, use you for affection, and/or etc.? Probably many.

Without having someone who also has the traits I listed at the top of this article, who needs enemies? That might sound extreme, but really, if we don’t have someone who has what it takes to protect our backs at all costs (like we do for them) and tells us the truth (like we do), and so forth, we have to protect ourselves even amongst these seemingly nice or surface-level ‘pleasant’ people and/or people-pleasing, ride-the-fence folks. I have known plenty of people who would have me around, and even do acts-of-service, who also threw me under the bus.

I have no problem with people who want to be this way and are fine with such relationships.

But as for me: no more settling and trying to create a sense of safety and shared-reality where there isn’t any.

"So then, because you are lukewarm, and neither cold nor hot, I will spew you out of My mouth."
Revelation 3:16 (KJV)

Do you need support while you figure out what you need to give and receive in relationships? I would love to speak with you.