Relationship: Bourne & Marie
Bourne escaped from brainwashing and manipulation.
He is fully aware of the mainstream society being a sort of Matrix, or Truman Show type existence and almost all people seemingly oblivious of it and/or content to live that way.
All of that is irrelevant to him because he doesn’t reside there, doesn’t perform and doesn’t have interest in what it has to offer him.
His focus is on survival while still needing to exist within it.
Then he meets Marie. Though Marie hadn’t been through what Bourne had, she too doesn’t have an interest in living like most people do, isn’t concerned with getting attention or performing or being oblivious. She meets Bourne when she seemingly is trying to figure out where to survive as herself: being different than most, if not all, people.
She feels an immediate energetic connection to Bourne and the desire to help each other, as they both live on a different frequency than everyone and everything else. They jump right into co-creating, shared meaning and shared reality, while automatically having shared ethics/principles/morals on which they stand.
Bourne is highly-attuned, highly-aware, and highly-knowledgeable based on natural abilities plus life experience as an deeply intuitive and aware person who knows everything always means something. Marie’s intuition tells her that she can fully and completely trust his awareness. She doesn’t mock him, or down-play what he knows, or lie and hide and trick, or try to convince him something is wrong with his perspective and what he knows, or throw him under the bus. Bourne doesn’t have to convince her of anything, or to drag her along. She’s right there with him, on the same page, contributing and supporting their mission together.
Marie and Bourne had a fox-hole kind of partnership. Their lives were where ever they were together. She completely trusted and believed in Bourne’s perspective and awareness; and works with him. She doesn’t have his level of awareness, but she still provides many benefits to their relationships.
If Marie was interested in “fitting in,” cared about her “image,” wanted “hobbies,” escaped into fantasy and mystic thinking, was distracted by on intrigued by anything in the Matrix, needed to conform, needed a circle of friends and social life, believed the narratives and group think and hive-mind thinking, didn’t highly-value Bourne’s natural traits and abilities, didn’t want exclusivity with one solid person, her relationship with Bourne would never work.
This sort of relationship is life-or-death to Bourne. Yes, he could do life alone. But then his life would be only trying to exist.
The sacred partnership he has with Marie brings depth and meaning to Bourne and his life, and creates a deeply safe place for him to fully be himself and be fully related to and resonated with—which merely existing cannot. One person relying solely on self, outside the Matrix/Truman Show type state, is very exhausting and painful.
The Bourne-Marie relationship is the only relationship example (real or fictional) which resonates with me.
Do you have an example of a relationship which resonates with you? Talk to me to dive into why and how; and for encouragement in not settling for anything less.