Quickly Dealing with Being Triggered

I think that when we are triggered by people, in the most basic sense, it’s because their words or actions are saying what our inner critic / inner parent voice says to us. So then we hear the critic from both the inside and the outside.

What can help is to find some truth in what they say. Use this information to create growth goals. This loosens some resistance and our inclination to feel shame (thus, we get defensive or self-sabotage).

Next, we can say to ourselves, "I know better and want better for myself. I deserve to be my own best friend. I'm glad this person showed me how I beat myself up. I want to be my best, but not beat myself up along the way. "

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