I’d Much Rather Not Be Liked

I was just thinking about super busy people who don’t invest in a solid relationship. And/or who chase novelty and attention. And/or who want me for moments of boredom and to feel like they have a big circle of “friends.” And so on.

• “Let’s meet for a drink and catch up! (I need a companion dog with me so I don’t look like a loser at the bar alone. Also, I need photos of us so it looks like I have a variety of friends at my fingertips.)”

• “I have these tickets. (I know I haven’t had contact with you for months or years and this will go no where, but...) Do you want to go with me?”

• “Hey, do you want to hike with me (even though we have zero emotional connection and I don’t show up in your life consistently).”

• “You’re welcome to come over any time. I don’t have much going on.
  (But I compartmentalize my life and am really secretive so there isn’t anything for you to hold onto. And frankly, I let anyone stay at my place and have superficial access to me because I have low standards. I simply like to be entertained by the energy and actions of others. So you ain’t special to me.)”

Um, no. I know my value and what I have to offer relationship. It’s precious to me and I reserve it now only to the ones who deserve it and are reciprocal.

Frankly, I’d much rather not be liked by people—including the types of people in examples above—than to have to witness one more shallow attempt and interaction. It only makes me feel more alien here and highlights the waste of potential I have witnessed my whole life.

How about you? Have you had enough of nonsense interactions? Please contact me for validation and support in being real, contentious and deep.