‘Nice’ Guys Finish Last
A man wrote me to say, in essence, that nice guys like him finish last.
I said, “‘Nice’ guys finish last when they make bad choices.”
I also said “Being a ‘nice’ guy a lot of times means being a pushover, people-pleaser, or a sucker.”
I’ve heard of so many guys who fall for a pretty smile or a pretty face—and even more soi, f the pretty smile has even just a little interest in them.
But yet, most of those guys don't measure up the pretty smile and attention with their own principles, values and ethics.
This particular man said, himself, that he married his wife because she was willing to have sex with him.
Low standards equate to crappy relationships.
I just learned of a young man in his early 20s who has high standards for himself and for future wife. His standards are to be, and be with someone who is, godly—including expecting modesty from his future wife (in both dress and behaviors) and in practicing modesty himself. For example, though a fit guy, he doesn't even believe in going shirtless because wants to save that for his wife. He doesn’t not believe in making out and snuggling, etc. pre-marriage.
That's someone with standards and values that I really admire and respect. This is being of much higher caliber than simply being "nice."
Pushovers, people-pleasers and suckers for looks and/or attention are not attractive or appealing at all.
Your standards for yourself and your person, and your using discernment, determine if you “finish last” or not. Likely, you won’t even think of that phrase at all, nor will you have a victim-mindset, if you live at this caliber and level.
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Do you need help getting out of victim mindset? Do you need to help developing standards? Please contact me. I’d love to help you.