Relationship ‘Substitutes’

When I speak of relationships, I am talking about with real-life people, and in real life. Further, I’m talking about actual connection and even commitment and loyalty.

When people are into relationship substitutes, ask yourself: Does that mean that they don't know how to connect and relate to others? Is there dismissive avoidance? Dissociation? Lack of an integrated self?

I’ve notice all of the above traits in all of the poor relationships I've had in life.

I myself am not into or okay with relationship substitutes and I’ve been ridiculed plenty for it.

However, I’m interested being with someone on the same page as me, similar emotional EQ and depth and values. What do I do until I meet that person? What’s my substitute for that?

I live how I would live with and with respect for my person in a conscious, faithful, sacred partnership. I’m conscious of how I spend my time and what I’m putting energy into.

I focus on my mental, spiritual, emotional and physical health—in the context of my integrity, values, morals, ethics, principles and relationship with God.

Creating a life that my partner can fit right into is how I remain open to meeting my person.

I've actually cut out my podcast listening by about 95 percent recently.. Why? Because I'm being present with myself and I actually talk aloud to myself (and to God), and write a lot. It's very healing. Instead of talking with and writing to myself, I will talk to my person (it’s much more preferred to invest in both myself and my person and our relationship!).

What kind of life are you living and what kind of person will your lifestyle attract?

Do you need help creating a lifestyle that attracts your kind of person? Please contact me. I’d love to help you.