They Don’t Want You
He doesn’t want you. She doesn’t want you.
I know it hurts. But you know it’s true.
Did he/she
lie?
cheat?
smear your character?
gossip about you?
trash you to your enemies?
mock and make fun of you?
not take you seriously?
complain about you to coworkers or acquaintances?
ridicule you for being hurt by his/her actions?
tell you that you’re the reason the relationship isn’t good?
hide from you?
have a romance apart from you (with himself/herself, with others)?
compartmentalize himself/herself?
seem slippery, confusing, hard to figure out?
distort your reality / gaslight you?
make you compete for him/her?
not want you to fully know him/her?
not really care to know you?
trick you?
exploit you and your vulnerabilities?
blame you for his/her dysfunction and harm?
attempt to destroy your sense of safety and security?
care more about coworkers and strangers than you?
disregard and not consider you many times?
mentally check out around you?
steal your identity?
steal (for his/her selfish gains) what you shared with him/her in order to invest in and build upon the relationship?
Yes?
Then you have to face the truth:
He doesn’t want you. She doesn’t want you.
I know that when you were raised thinking you are the one with the problem, you are the one that caused your parents’ emotional problems, etc. it’s very easy to be confused when someone is willing to be with you, yet does any of the things listed above. He/she is willing to be with you for your attention, so he/she can project his/her pain onto you, for control, for entertainment…
I know. It’s hard to believe people would actually be like this.
No, it doesn’t matter how much you love him/her. You can’t fix it.
It’s old programming that makes you keep trying to make it better. But you have to believe… He doesn’t want you. She doesn’t want you.
If he did, if she did, he/she would cherish you, protect you, have boundaries with other people, reveal all, invest in you.
He doesn’t do any of that. She doesn’t do any of that.
Do you need support in seeing who you’re really dealing with? Do you need help seeing what you’re avoiding? Please contact me. I’d love to help you.