Don’t Correct Your Enemies

Pertaining to enemies in the context of relationships, usually those people are enemies because they betray and are otherwise malicious. Many times they are covert and have most shallow-minded people fooled.

I have deeply loved such people in my life, and I held too long to the hope that they would change, heal and grow to be the best versions of themselves—who I could see them to be, beneath and beyond their coping mechanisms. That I saw their potential, that I invested in them because I loved and wanted to be close to them, was my tremendous, ignorant mistake.

I don’t do this anymore because I’ve done a lot of work to finally value and protect who I am—even though I’m so different than most people, even though I have assets which aren’t valued by most people (beyond the tip of the iceberg because they value performance, not depth), and even though what I want reciprocated is as rare as I am. In other words, even though I’m mostly alone—in my convictions and self-respect—I will not fall for another enemy again.

Instead of turning to people who behave like my enemies with the irrational hope that they will protect and hold sacred what is valuable about me (I turned to such people for most of my life thus far due to childhood programming), I protect and hold sacred for myself now. I know my doing this will draw into my life people who are genuine, sincere, honest, mature, loyal and deep—and protective.

My personal enemies scapegoated me, triangulated, gaslit and assassinated my character—many times amongst each other like bullies in a gang. They absolutely did not hold sacred my vulnerabilities and all that I shared with them. Rather, they used my identity, honesty, transparency and vulnerabilities to try to destroy me. Only an enemy would do that.

Over the years, it was so tempting to defend my character, to show proof and evidence contradictory to their lies and corrupt fantasies. Whenever I tried, my enemies would just use my defenses as more data to smear me with, to gaslight and make me the bad guy to project their internal garbage on yet again. And I’m sure it fed their egos to have my attention, to be able to get reactions out of me, and to see me beg. I just dug my grave deeper.

Now I know.

Now I know I don’t have to defend myself with these kinds of people. Let them keep their lies. Let them marinate in their malice and corruption. i don’t offer up any more pieces of myself onto their alters of deceit. Anyone who believes my enemies (and especially who doesn’t bother asking me for my side, let alone doesn’t advocate for me) is also my enemy too.

I know they know what they’ve done. Even if they are in denial, they will be addressing it directly with God one day.

I don’t care what my enemies think of me. There’s nothing they can take away from me when I’m not defending myself with them. I have my spirit, my soul, my growth, and my Heavenly Father. My enemies can never take me away from myself. My enemies can never take God away from me.

Freedom.

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