Who Do You Want to Count on?
Do you want to count on someone who
needs to fit in
is distracted by shiny objects
will throw you under the bus to get attention and/or fit in elsewhere
is okay lying to and hiding from you
doesn’t want to be deeply known
is willing to conform and comply with lies
who doesn’t know, nor care to know, themselves (including why they do what they do, and don’t do what they don’t do)
doesn’t care about maturing, growing and healing
would be content to have a robot and/or a fantasy object
believes in moral relativism
shape-shifts and performs
describes themselves with adjectives like nice, good, peaceful, spiritual, etc. as tactics for hiding truth
compartmentalizes life and self
avoids accountability
cannot and will not relate to and resonate with you
doesn’t seem to know the difference between actors and performers and/or stereotypical attractive people, and reality and genuine connection and truth
who sees interactions as opportunities to perform and be entertained
who gives generic, bumper-sticker, mainstream advice and feedback
is evasive and slippery
creates confusion
seems repulsed by clarity
has unspoken agreements with people to not talk about truth
in denial about trauma and hardships
prefers escapism in order to not see or deal with things
won’t admit to desires, needs, preferences, interests, etc.
wishes to be a child again
brags about being child-like
doesn’t want to be counted on
Or would you want to count on someone who
believes in truth at all costs
wants to be deeply known and to deeply know another
stands with integrity and ethics even when alone
fears God and His word
has high standards for self and others in ethics, truth, morals
needs to have a trustworthy, devoted person to deeply co-process life with and to be accountable with
is naturally genuine and sincere
is disturbed by manipulation, lies, gaslighting, pretending, facades and fakery
must have clarity and truth, no matter how painful or uncomfortable
admits and learns from mistakes
holds himself/herself accountable
has strong boundaries, allowing in only what and whom is in-line with ethics, values, standards
protects self, partner, and children with his/her life, at all costs
has strong intuition, attunement, principles, awareness
is transparent and forthright
has input and feedback that is relevant to you and your shared reality
is resilient in healing
found himself/herself through really tough circumstances
understands that being disliked, and even bullied, is going to happen when making a stand, not riding the fence and not being easily swayed
can see beneath the surface, the performances, the lies, the facades, the masks, the song-and-dances
is glad and relieved to be an adult
admits struggles and wants to figure them out
admits to being okay with traits, standards, perspectives and perspectives which others think are wrong and should be changed
must come from a place of acknowledging the Emperor has no clothes
takes ‘being counted on’ very seriously
If you choose the latter, I’d love to speak with you. Pro truth. Pro reality. Realist. Genuine. Sincere.