Method for Deep Digging: Avoids & Encourages

I was talking to someone who is, with her partner, delving into the type of parents they want to be. They are trying to be on the same page.

I suggested digging deeper into the topic:

• Where do each of your ideas come from?

• With the specific choices and methods, what are each of you

  • trying to avoid

  • trying to encourage

For example, he thinks children should have access to junk food at home. Is it the junk food itself that is actually important? What does children having access to junk food avoid in parenting, and in the children’s lives? What does having access to junk food encourage in parenting and in the children’s lives?

Perhaps he might be on track of what underlying situations are best to avoid and what underlying situations should be encouraged. But he could be off track with his ideas for methods to achieving those situations.

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