Red Flag: Leaving You at Edge of Seat

When people (who aren’t my coaching clients) have come to me for empathy and my input about a challenge they are having, I have taken them, their situation, their concern and their feelings seriously.

As such, from my ability to relate, my emotional EQ, life-long healing work and experiences, I give my input on how to work through the situation. I have done this many times.

But I have noticed that a good number of people will take my time, effort, concern, and attention and just walk away. By “walk away,” I mean, they will forget they even involved me at all. They won’t come back and say, “Here is how it went.” They will leave me at the edge of my seat, so to speak.

I would have to be the one to ask them how it was going / how it went; and usually they acted as if nothing happened at all—not even their challenge in which I invested. Sometimes they would look at me strangely for my following up.

Additionally, I usually ended up surprised to realize they had had also spoken with many other random people about their challenge as if it was just casual chit-chat and banter—with all parties lacking the seriousness and genuineness I had applied to the interaction and situation.

I have even been in a partnership with someone who frequently left me at the edge of my seat and who secretly chit-chatted with others about that which I had genuinely cared and invested, as my drive was always to deeply bond and connect with my partner.

This sort of thing has happened to me for decades, but I finally have stepped back so my intuition can guide my ship. My intuition knows if someone is seriously wanting input and appreciates my attunement and suggestions. Or if he/she is just feeding his/her performances, feeding off of self-created drama, and just wants random attention.

I now know that my sincerity, genuineness, ability to relate, presence and attunement are precious and rare. I now protect myself and my life energy from performers and attention seekers. And I most certainly don’t get into a friendship, let alone partnership, with anyone who does this sort of thing.

Do you need support with setting boundaries when dealing with people? I’d love to speak with you. Pro truth. Pro reality. Realist. Genuine. Sincere.