Are You Just Entertainment & a Fictitious Character?
As I get to know people at this stage in my life, and as I reflect on past relationships, I am able to put my finger on exact trouble spots which don’t match up with the type of relationship I am built for and desire. With each trouble spot I encounter, I’m able to further create a language for what I want.
I spent most of my life thus far carrying most of the emotional work in relationships. This is because I know what I want, I have a pretty high emotional EQ and awareness, and I’m willing to put in the effort and investment for relationship—always with the hope I will finally have a fulfilling, safe relationship.
But my carrying most of the emotional work has meant the other person isn’t all-in with me. I unfortunately tried to help people value having a relationship—which is futile.
Unfortunately, there are many people who are just looking for entertainment, performance, and fantasies they can manipulate. I’m uninterested and unwilling to being that for anyone. I’m unwilling to chase and beg people to create something real with me.
Now, I want to hit the ground running. I don’t need to be involved with people who don’t want or are incapable of the type of relationship I desire.
A big part of this entails being with someone who needs to talk to me, to reach out, to connect with me, to confide in me, to get my input and to get my support.
In other words, I want someone who is self-driven and motivated to invest in a close, deep relationship with me. I want someone who cherishes me and the relationship and finds it to be a tremendous asset to, the missing piece in, their life—and lives like it.
Without that, I’ve seen that I end up just being entertainment for when the person feels like being entertained (or to entertain), and the person just uses pieces of my identity to create a fictitious character to think about and manipulate with fantasy stories.
Do you need help with standing strong on what you want and need in relationship? Please contact me. I’d love to help you.