Red Flag: They Value ‘Scraps’

This seems pretty simple though it took me a really long time to fully grasp it because it was so hard for me to believe that the people in whom I was genuinely interested valued scraps above having a quality relationship.

If someone highly-values, is impressed and enthralled by, gives attention to and prioritizes superficial interactions and attention (i.e. scraps), they aren’t going to value you any deeper or higher than a scrap. And their motivation to be accountable and reciprocal in a deeper relationship will be really low because of their contentment and occupation with scraps.

If you stick with such a person, you probably will find yourself paying attention to things you don’t even value or care about because that’s where the person’s focus and efforts go. You will find yourself in a nonsense competition which you didn’t even sign up for: a competition for your person’s devotion, consideration, efforts and desire. Your person will make you compete with scraps.

It’s humiliating.

Pay attention to what a person values, puts energy into, focuses on. Pay attention to see if their words match their actions and choices. And trust your intuition more than love bombing.

Do need to talk with someone who is Pro truth, Pro reality, Realist, Genuine, Sincere? ’I’d love speak with you.