Red Flag: Unclear About What They Want & Don’t Want

Another lesson I’ve learned is that if a person isn’t clear on what they want and don’t want, it’s a really bad sign and a deal-breaker.

Most of the people I have dealt with weren’t clear about this. Many strung me along and let me orientate towards our wanting the same things and believing we were alike.

I believe people who aren’t clear don’t want to limit their options, are more concerned about their image than they are about truth and they want to avoid responsibility and accountability.

My last partner tricked me all the time in this way. I was transparent and deeply communicative about my wants and needs. This person never told me, “I don’t want those same things.” Actually, did the opposite. In fact, this person eventually tried to intimidate and threaten me whenever I suggested we weren’t on the same page and didn’t want the same things. Later, this same person ridiculed and mocked me for my relational needs and perspective—talk about a manipulator!

Now, when people aren’t forthright, I just assume they are okay with lying and game-playing, and I move on.

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