What Does “Being Healed” Mean?

A stranger said to me, “What does ‘healed’ even look like? You finally get to a place where you are suddenly perfect and lovable? This has been the most overused and ridiculous word over the years on the internet. Loyalty doesn't have anything to do with that. If you're seeing someone that doesn't want to be loyal or exclusive it doesn't mean they aren't ‘healed’ like some enlightened master. It means they aren't into you enough to be in a serious relationship.”

This comment seems like a good representation of how many people think.

My response:

If someone isn't loyal, I don't want to be with them. Whether they are into me or are not. Whether we are in a serious relationship or not.

To me: Being "healed" enough means

• Being transparent and honest with partner

• Knowing what you want and don't want and communicating that with partner

• Being able to relate to and be attuned with partner

• Desiring to collaborate and co-create with partner

• Having strong boundaries with anything and anyone that interferes with the relationship and with ethics, values, principles

• Being willing to stand strong and alone for what is right and for the relationship and partner

• Being a strong ally for and with partner

• Considering ethics, partner, relationship in decisions and actions.

• Repairing mistakes

This isn't what I call perfection. It's how I am wired and operate. I won't anymore invest all this into someone who doesn't do the same.

Have you felt odd your whole life because you’ve known that everything means something? Have you been ridiculed for taking relationships and life seriously? Do you need to talk with someone who is Pro truth, Pro reality, Realist, Genuine, Sincere? I’d love speak with you.