“You’re Judgmental!”
I realized I have only been called judgmental by people who didn’t like how I perceived them. Many were upset that I wasn’t buying their performances and/or that I wasn’t playing on a superficial level with them and/or I wasn’t superficially soothing and emotionally-regulating them and their fantasies. Most, if not all, thought my perspective was irrelevant, not to mention wrong, within the relationship (say what?!)
What they call judgmental, I call discernment.
I, on the other hand, think people’s perspectives are legitimate for them and their choices. I don’t need to change their mind. I wish for people to judge and discern as to if they want anything to do with me or not. If they don’t like me, I hope for them to steer clear of me except for what is necessary . If they think negatively of me, by all means, move on.
Not everyone is going to like me, agree with me, or want to be around me. That is completely normal and healthy. It doesn’t hurt me. What has hurt me is only when people pretend and perform as if they like and appreciate who I am and what I offer—but my intuition always knows, and I’m trusting that now days.
For those who I invest in and who equally invest in me, I expect to hear the truth and any and all input after our fully understanding, resonating and relating to each other based on similar values, morals, ethics, principles, and axioms.
Being called judgmental, I now know, is yet one more red flag for me. I really appreciate having easy cues like this.
“But the natural man receiveth not the things of the Spirit of God: for they are foolishness unto him: neither can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned.”
- 1 Corinthians 2:14 (KJV)“Beloved, believe not every spirit, but try the spirits whether they are of God: because many false prophets are gone out into the world.”
- 1 John 4:1 (KJV)“And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.”
- Romans 12:2 (KJV)“But strong meat belongeth to them that are of full age, even those who by reason of use have their senses exercised to discern both good and evil.”
- Hebrews 5:14 (KJV)“For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any two edged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.”
- Hebrews 4:12 (KJV)“Give therefore thy servant an understanding heart to judge thy people, that I may discern between good and bad: for who is able to judge this thy so great a people?”
- 1 Kings 3:9 (KJV)“Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you.”
- Matthew 7:6 (KJV)“And needed not that any should testify of man: for he knew what was in man.”
- John 2:25 (KJV)
Do you need support in getting away from those who don’t like you and appreciate who you are? I’d love speak with you. Pro truth. Pro reality. Realist. Genuine. Sincere.