Tip: Blend into the Wall

I was giving advice to someone whose future mother-in-law uses victimhood and fragility as a manipulation tactic. This older woman seems fragile and weak, supposedly needs her son’s help, is a “do-gooder” with outside people, yet some how can keep her grown son under her thumb and treat him like crap.

I was raised by one of these.

I told my client the following:

• Pretend you’re playing AirSoft with a

  • mentally-challenged and psychopathic child

  • mirage

  • hologram

  • robot

• Don’t be a target.

• Blend into the wall.

• Be as boring as a gray rock with zero expression.

• Don’t try to get her to like you.

• Don’t look tough.

• Be invisible with dullness and unresponsiveness

• Remember:

  • You can’t get her to do anything.

  • You can’t teach her anything.

I have learned this not only from having dealt with my own mother and from my finally snapping out of the blind loyalty I had for her, but also with many other people in general. Even with nice people who stay on the surface—which isn’t where I thrive and orientate from.

If you don’t take care of you, if you don’t preserve your energy and sanity for those who are on the same page, who is going to?

Sick of the nonsense? I’d love speak with you. Pro truth. Pro reality. Realist. Genuine. Sincere.